When you see a cute girl in the street, you instantly fantasise about what it’d be like to ask her out/ take her on a date etc etc etc…Then her boyfriend comes along.
Asshole. He’s instantly an asshole. You don’t even know him, but you know he’s going to be a dick. Why’s that? I don’t know but it seems the same with everybody I meet.
Having just come out of a long relationship myself, I wonder, was I an Asshole? I mean the answer is clearly yes as I’m not with her anymore, but the real answer lies deeper I believe.
Basic psychology would suggest that when we see two people together, we instantly believe we’re better than the person they’re with. This leads us to become jealous and In turn, angry.
A person is 1000% more attractive when they’re with somebody else, or so they say, and this leads me on to my next point. Satisfaction.
If like myself, you were 100% satisfied in your relationship, you become complacent. You take things for granted, you work out a thorough routine. Sometimes you fight, sometimes you cuddle the circle begins again.
When an outsider becomes involved, and says he can provide you with something new, something accomplished, he’s looking at you thinking “asshole” and let’s face it…we’ve all done it, and honestly…change is great!
For myself, my heart maybe on the mend, but musically I’m writing songs left right and centre and that’s a great thing!
However, what you don’t expect is a phrase I’ve coined known as “unexplainable satisfaction denial” or USD for short.
USD is based around the idea that you can only be 100% satisfied with something for so long, be it; A lover, a phone, a game…anything: though eventually the fixation wears off (Love has nothing to do with this and in doing so works on another level completely).
USD occurs when you’ve reached maximum satisfaction and interest begins to decline, what was once, easy repetition, becomes a task, the routine becomes sluggish and you begin to look for other avenues. It’s a constant update on our social outlooks.
So finishing off, I’ll ask myself the question, “Is that guy with the pretty girl an Asshole?” And the answer to that question is No.
Whether single or together, Satisfaction is something which is earned, not just given . For somebody to be completely satisfied can take days, or decades.
Nobodies an Asshole. Not the guy in the street, not you or I. Nobody.
We’re all just trying to find the one thing that makes us happy once in a while.
It may take time, but we’ll get there eventually :)